In today’s blog post I dedicate myself to a topic, which was illuminated only in the last decades by scientists, the emotional intelligence. While the Intelligent Quotient ( IQ ) has long been an integral part of research and measurements, was the emotional intelligence before the 20iest century no part of psychological considerations. Mass phenomena such as depression or violence in the family base usually on feeling deficits that were not dealt with as early as possible and brought the topic EQ more in the focus.
Emotions out of control
In modern society, many people feel that they have to be moderate to be integrated into the society. Emotional decisions and actions in the business world, but also in the private sphere, are not welcome. You have to function and emotion is interpreted as a sign of weakness. Nevertheless in the midst of the community flashing repeatedly emotionally motivated madness deeds: School shootings, acts of violence and racist attacks are just a few. People are looking for explanations for such mad Events, but rarely find some which makes perplexity place. The impression does not deceive, it is proved that these days more people tend to loose control. It comes to more aggressive behavior of adolescents and depression increase disproportionately. In Germany the risk of suffering from depression these days is 3 times higher than in the generation before the war.
A look into the brain
The key to the solution of such questions lies in the emotional intelligence, the compensation of rationality and compassion. Until now, people were convinced that IQ is determined by the genes, and will not be affected by life experiences. But there are successful people with low IQ, while others, which have a high one fail. This is due to the presence or absence of certain features of emotional intelligence:
- Self motivation
What makes emotional intelligence so important is the relationship between feeling, character and moral instincts .
Historical origin of emotions
The term Emotion comes from the Latin “emovere” meaning the tendency to act. It is proven that people decide emotionally when making important decisions and action (choice of partners, bereavement, hazards). However, the civilization in the last 10,000 years has progressed faster than the Evolution. Biological basic equipment has stopped at the level of the Pleistocene. Laws and ethical standards serve as standards to keep emotions under control.
Neurobiologists have identified several types of emotions. In anger adrenaline provides physical energy. In fear the body supports by increasing the blood supply in the legs, the ability to quickly escape. In state of happiness it blocks negative emotions. Lovers he adds a calm, relaxed state. Also for disgust and sadness, evolution has given each man a pattern of action. In hulls disgust all speak the nose.
In addition to the emotions, that were essential for survival in the hars existence of earlier, people are guided by rational considerations. Heart and mind, emotion and reason – usually working together in a chest. But when the emotions gain the upper hand, people can not longer rely a lot on their rationality.
Blocks of emotional intelligence
The intelligent use of emotions is characterized by five features:
- Perceive emotions : Functioning self-perception check
- Control of emotions
- Target focused use of emotions: For self- motivation or creative spurts
- Recognize emotions of others: Empathy is the basis of so-called knowledge of human nature
- Be able to deal with the emotions of others: If your able to handle this, you will become a social star
- The concept of emotional intelligence brings heart and soul into balance
- Modern society neglects the emotional side of man
- In seemingly irrational violence and depression suppressed feelings come to the fore
- In crucial moments people follow mainly their emotional impulses
- Strive to control your feeling budget, not its suppression
- Receive the ability to perceive others’ feelings and deal with it
- Do not criticize your colleagues character, but only actions